How To Get More Responses At Online Dating Sites
Sharon is the owner of the free dating site unlocklove.com
Sharon A.
So,
you’ve decided to join a dating website. You’re hoping someone out
there will find something interesting about you and try to get to know
you better.
Many members worry about appearing ‘desperate’ or
over keen. This can mean putting in less effort into a profile in a bid
to ‘play it cool’. Of course, nobody wishes to be seen as desperate.
However, keep this in mind: how will others know what you want, if you
don’t ask for it? How will they ever appreciate your finer qualities if
you remain tightlipped?
Therefore, to be successful in the
online dating world, your profile is highly important. Members search
through a large number of profiles on these sites. If there is little
information about a prospective date, then they are more than likely to
skim over an empty profile as quickly as possible. Look at this as a
great chance to sell yourself!
The first aspect of your profile
to consider should be your photo. No matter how much emphasis people put
on the importance of personality, the old expression, ‘it’s nice to put
a face to a name’ couldn’t be more apt.
Physical appearance
plays a big part in the real world, when first becoming attracted to
someone. Also, it helps to ensure that people will remember you. The
golden rule when posting photos on dating sites is obvious â€" BE HONEST.
We’ve all heard stories of people who’ve posted a photo that is ten or
twenty years old. Or worse still, a photo of someone else entirely! Now,
if you never intend to meet someone, then this is not a problem. But
let’s be realistic â€" you wouldn’t be on a dating site if you weren’t
hoping to meet someone!
A misleading photo causes all sorts of
unnecessary problems on a first date. You will have your date
questioning your honesty. You want to turn up for dates relaxed, with
your best attitude put forward. Still not convinced? Just think how you
would feel, if you were deceived by a photo, and that should be
incentive enough for you to be accurate.
So what if you’ve
gained a few pounds? Aged a bit? Give yourself some credit, you’re still
a beautiful person, and sure to be someone’s ideal ‘type’. So, try to
get a recent photo of yourself, looking the best you can. Avoid shots
that are so dark or distant that no one can see your face. People will
only see either an insecure person, or someone who has something to hide
and move on. Just think how frustrated and disinterested you’d be if
you came across such a picture.
Let’s talk about location. How
much information is right? Obviously, for safety reasons you aren’t
going to put your address into your profile. Apart from this, put as
much detail as you feel comfortable with. At least, put the state you
live in. at most, your suburb. Anything in between (such as the city
your suburb is located in) is also fine. We all know this, but it bears
repeating, do not put your phone number on any public site.
It will save everyone a great deal of time if you are open and honest about your sexual preference.
Talk
about your interests and hobbies. Don’t just leave it blank! And don’t
worry if they don’t seem interesting enough. This is who you are. If you
are honest and forthcoming with this information, you will be more
likely to attract the type of person you are after. For example, if you
were the district running champion in high school, but never intend to
run again, don’t put it in as a hobby! To put in hobbies you have no
interest in, in the hope of appearing more impressive, will only attract
people you have nothing in common with in the here and now.
So, if you like quiet nights in, say so! Try to paint a rich and detailed picture of what the real you likes to do.
You
also really need to share a part of your personality with your
audience. What are your beliefs? What are you looking for in a person?
Also, if you feel you have special qualities such as a sense of humour
or kind nature, try to write your profile in a way that sincerely
reflects that.
You are now ready to make your first attempt at
creating a winning profile! Remember, you just need to keep it honest
and current. You need to show you’ve made some level of effort to let
members know who the real you is. And when in doubt, remind yourself:
give the sort of information you yourself would be wanting to know about
when looking at other members. Good luck!